A new baby arrives – the family dynamic changes and they want to manage that in the best way possible.
Demands of a growing family alongside the need to work means there is less time and energy for everyone – parents need to be able to identify their needs and how to meet them (so they don’t burn out) and sharper communication skills mean ‘quality time’ rather than ‘quantity time’.
Discipline strategies fail, or are too hard to ‘police’ – PET relies on the relationship, not reward or punishments. The case against punishment and reward. This doesn’t mean that children don’t learn about consquences – you can help them set their own. This is self regulation.
Toddlers find it difficult to express how they feel, get very frustrated and end up being overwhelmed – when small children experience great developmental changes, they need help to explore, manage and regulate their emotions. Knowing how to name their feelings can help them before the emotional flood hits.
The competing needs of everyone bring the family to breaking point – PET offers a straightforward method, where everyone can participate and find a solution that is win/win. By leading the way, Parents model functional communication skills, which will help their child manage conflict outside the home as well.
Pre-teens and teenagers begin their process of detachment – withdrawal and/or constant ‘fighting against’ puts further strain on the relationship, at exactly the time it needs to be strong:
- You can support your young people to identify what they need, so they can find solutions to their problems. This will mean they are less likely to engage in self-destructive behaviours, bullying and truancy.
- Clear communication will increase your child’s self-awareness and social skills. They will be more confident about trying new things, more self-assured and able to contribute.
- An understanding of values is important, as is the recognition that different people will have different values. Influence is better than control and someone might decide to change their values, as a result of increased understanding
- Creative problem solving will improve skills in critical thinking, empathy and tolerance for different world views. Social awareness will encourage them to change for others (because they want to).
- Children will transition between primary/secondary school and school/further education or work, with increased emotional intelligence competences: perseverance, self-control, skills in getting along with others, flexibility and optimism.
Adopted/fostered children – welcoming children will require careful listening and strong boundaries to help them settle into your home and family. This approach, used consistently, will help children feel safe in their new environment.
Grandparents wanting to be more involved in family life/stepping into a child-caring role – the values and pressures of life today are very different to those of 50 years ago. The parenting skills that might have worked then may not work now. To avoid friction and provide a consistency of care in the family, grandparents choose to skill up with us. The subsequent improvement in the relationship with their grandchildren can be very enriching.
Divorce or separation – Help children through the aftermath of a divorce or separation. Knowing how to use the win/win conflict resolution method with all the family, makes access arrangements easier, as well as having familiar parenting approach for the children in both homes.
Court/Children in Care – working on your parenting will support you to work towards making more and better contact with your children.
Continuing Professional Development – for anyone who works with children and/or their parents (GPs, Teachers, Counsellors, Youth Workers, Pastoral Teams, Mental Health Workers, Befrienders, Child Minders). This course provides 24hours of CPD, carries Accreditation and Certification, and is tax-deductable.