This is a person centred approach to parenting, where you focus on your relationship. Person centred relationships are evidenced as being the main drive behind psychologically healthy personality change.
Being person centred means that empathy (a desire to understand from the other person’s perspective), unconditional positive regard (accepting the person, with ‘no strings attached’) and congruence (you’re transparently real) is at the heart of all your communication.
If you provide person centred parenting in your home, everyone’s behaviour will transform and relationships will become mutually respectful and cooperative.
The parenting approach is Relational and ensures the needs of everyone are met (Parent and Child). It is neither permissive nor authoritarian. It is authoritative; and gives parents the skills to discipline their children, so that children and young people can be themselves AND be considerate of others.
Establish this parenting approach early on, to avoid problems from happening in the first place; or bring this approach in to repair relationships that have been damaged in the past.